林燕妮 的 頑童留學

Reading 林燕妮 的 頑童留學 (alternate link) got me thinking. Here is an excerpt,

我 對 兒 子 的 Ivy League 夢 碎 了 , 原 來 我 只 是 一 直 在 編 織 自 己 的 理 想 , 他 可 不 那 麼 想 。 他 不 愛 循 規 蹈 矩 , 不 但 把 監 護 人 氣 壞 , 面 對 那 少 年 丐 幫 幫 主 , 我 真 的 想 對 他 說 : 「 請 你 把 我 氣 個 全 屍 而 死 吧 ! 」

It is in parents’ genes to try to impart on their children their teachings, learnings, and even world views. Unfortunately, the children often have their own minds.

I am a certified expert in 激 my parents, so I emphasize with 林燕妮的兒子. Ultimately, good parents try to provide good education and some support to their children. How their children will or will not use these positively will be entirely up to them. There is no one predetermined path in life, and for sure it is not one predefined by parents.

Lets hope we can take our precious life in our hands and make the best out of it. After all, we only live once, and while we love our parents, we should live our lives for ourselves.

Good luck to us all (after we work our asses off, in our own ways).

P.S. I am glad I came across the book Co-opetition some years ago. Since then, I’ve viewed the rules in games/business dealings/negotiations/lives as something that can be changed to benefit everyone involved.

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4 Responses to 林燕妮 的 頑童留學

  1. assenav says:

    the link didn’t work since i am not a subscriber to next magazine but i read the article somewhere else.

    interesting to see her kid went to the same high school as i did, and i think it’s a blessing for all the students studying in that school.

    i grow up with minimal parental intervention, and i was so proud of my mother for trusting me and letting me do what i liked.

    是的,我死得很早,卻又活得太長。
    how beautiful, how sorrow…
    she’s such a talented but tragic lady.

  2. kempton says:

    assenav,

    Right, it is a subscriber only link. Looks like someone copied and pasted the text here,
    http://pda.eloklau.com/g/mag/hknext/view_next.php?issue=990&art_id=12348075&mag=next

    Which school?

    Parents can do what they can. But at the end, it is up to the kids. Trusting or not trusting. Same result. :)

    I enjoy 林燕妮 sometimes. And yes, she is talented. But tragic? I think each of us has our fortune and tragedy. True, her talented brother died too young, etc but I rather focus on the brighter side of our lives.

  3. assenav says:

    聖保羅男女 <<< mentioned in her article

    not just her brother died, but also her love, 黃霑.

    as a woman, i can feel her loneliness, another way of saying this 我死得很早,卻又活得太長 is 行屍走肉

  4. kempton says:

    assenav,

    I see re 聖保羅男女.

    Well, when 黃霑 passed away, 林燕妮 and 黃霑 had long broken up. 黃霑 was married to someone for a few years already. They had some really good years (deeply in love, even started and sold a very successful advertising company).

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